Tomorrow Never Comes – Start Living for Today

Tomorrow never comes; once tomorrow gets here it’s today. Waiting for tomorrow to do what you should have started long ago is only going to keep you from ever succeeding.

It’s so easy to get into the habit of saying “Wait” or “I’ll do that later” instead of taking up the mantel of responsibility and just getting on with living life fully today. This isn’t saying you have to ignore the facts:

  • Yes, the timing must be right to pursue your dreams.
  • Yes, you have to get the right obligations out of the way, like taking care of family, children, elderly parents, if that’s what you are supposed to do.
  • Yes, you may have to finish the fight on the hard challenge that have come your way.

But once those have gone and you know the time is now, you have to get started on living the true purpose of your life.

  • Do you ever wonder why certain people have a yearning in the heart to do something big?
  • Do you think this is a universal yearning or do you think some people are content to be where they are in life?

It seems that for some the yearning is stronger or more real than others. I believe everyone is born with a purpose to fulfill in life that will leave the world a better place as a result. That task may be small or only touch one single life. But touching that life will cause a ripple effect that will reach out to places unknown.

I also believe that some people refuse to do what is on their heart. Knowing that there is a great thing to do, they refuse to answer that life calling and ignore it until life is over for them.

  • You know in your heart that you are supposed to be doing more.
  • You know you are supposed to be doing greater things.

I believe a life purpose is set in the heart of every person at birth. When you refuse to heed the persistence of that life calling, you live a life unfulfilled.

  • Are you denying the call of your life purpose?
  • Are you letting the past, or your fears, or unforgiveness, or confusion keep you from identifying what is great about you so you can start sharing it with the world?

I’ve been in settings where the most unlikely person got up and made a presentation that changed the direction of everyone in the room. Through very simple words or a brief exercise or by sharing a piece of art or playing a simple arpeggio, lives were changed.

What about you?

What are you supposed to be doing with your life? When will you start doing it? Drop a comment and tell us your commitment to Live Live Fully Today!

Also, check out the lesson of Queen Esther.  She probably never thought her day would come either but teaches Christian Business Women to wait on the Lord who will reveal your life calling in due time.  Click HERE to check it out.

Smart Ways to Free Yourself from Guilty Feelings

If you are human, you have made mistakes before. Some of these mistakes can lead to feelings of guilt. But, you don’t have to live with guilt. There are ways to move on with your life.

What is guilt? It is best described as the feeling of inadequacy that follows a mistake or a blunder. Sometimes, it isn’t even a blunder to anyone other than to the person feeling guilty.

It is not uncommon to make mistakes. We are all capable of it. But what follows that mistake? If someone else is hurt physically, mentally or financially, you may feel a sense of responsibility to make it right. This is the beginning of guilt.

Whether you hurt someone intentionally or by accident, confessing the wrong can put the situation in perspective. Either the person will forgive you or not. If it is a criminal act, you will be punished or absolved of guilt according to the law.

But, even after all of this happens, what can make a person continue to feel bad about what they have done? Guilty feelings that continue usually start before the incident that evoked the guilt.

What can cause guilt? Here are a few suggestions.

* Criticism – If you are exposed to criticism all the time, you may feel inadequate. This inadequacy could be directed at you or at a certain task you perform.

* Lack of resolution – If you can’t talk to the person you hurt then there is a distinct lack of closure. This can result in you making up scenarios in your mind that revolve around feelings of not being forgiven for the act. You may try harder with others to not hurt or offend them as a result of not being able to make amends in this case.

* Unfulfilled expectations – Some people feel guilty just because they can’t live up to others’ expectations. They feel the disappointment over what they are not, so that who they truly are doesn’t seem to matter.

So how can you counter guilty feelings?

* Take a realistic view of yourself – Each person makes mistakes. Use them as learning experiences. No one is perfect, but you can try to do better the next time.

* List your good qualities – We all have some. Keep this list handy for times when feelings of inadequacy creep back in. Post it on your refrigerator and the bathroom mirror.

* Avoid comparisons – It is the kiss of death. Sure, we all do things differently, but that doesn’t make one method better than another. If you compare yourself to someone else, you are sure to come up short on some point. That is a good way to trigger debilitating guilt.

* Counter negative thoughts – Stop negative thoughts about yourself in their path. When you have one, counter it with a positive affirmation.

Guilt is a destructive emotion that can hurt you long after the triggering event has passed. Learn to let go and move on.

Apologizing – Why Is It so Difficult?

Have you ever done something wrong? Of course you have; we all have. But what do you do about it?

It may be hard to say goodbye but it is even harder to say that you’re sorry. What is at the heart of this matter?

What goes on when you do something wrong? First there is guilt. Guilt is a horrible feeling that can lead to many destructive habits. One of those habits is denial. Your guilt is so overwhelming that you pretend that nothing ever happened.

Guilt can also have you searching for someone else to take the blame. No one wants to look bad in another person’s eyes, so they find a scapegoat to ease their feelings. Some of these acts are almost second nature when you have done something wrong.

Where It All Begins

It begins with society. Society has a view of those who apologize and it can have an effect on our opinion of the act.

* Weakness – Apologizing can be seen as a defect in your personality. It gives someone else a step over you. If you apologize once you will do it again.

* Admission of guilt – Some people apologize to diffuse a situation. To others, this can be seen as an admission of guilt when you are not guilty at all. Some people are afraid of that.

* Surrender – You are giving over your power to someone else. We have enough people telling us what to do, so we don’t want to voluntarily give that right to someone else.

* Imperfection – Offering an apology may make you feel that something is wrong with you. You made a mistake and are not perfect but an apology brings that to light and you feel woefully inadequate.

The tendency can be to avoid situations where you could make a mistake. In the real world, that can potentially stop you from leaving your house. Each time you interact with someone else there could be a misunderstanding that can lead to an apology needing to be offered.

Here are some ways that you can learn to apologize when you have to without fearing fall-out.

* Do it right away – When we wait to offer an apology, we think of many reasons why we shouldn’t or why we couldn’t. Allay your fears by saying sorry when the incident happens.

* Understand the situation – How would you feel if the same thing happened to you? If you would expect an apology then offer it to someone else. Say what you would want to hear.

* Be sincere – Refrain from prefacing your apology and using words that could render it insincere like “but.” Give your all because anything less will be noticed.

Apologizing is more than saying you are sorry. It is recognizing that someone else has been hurt either intentionally or unintentionally by you. Your timely response can change everything.

Tips to Cope with Anxiety and Fear

Anxiety and fear can keep you from living the life that you want. If you are dealing with them now, here are some tips to help you regain control of your life and put them behind you.

What is fear and anxiety? Anxiety is a disorder that can be characterized by attacks that may leave you powerless to respond. It may feel as if you are having a heart attack that seems to come out of the blue. You may experience sweating, heart racing, clammy skin and shortness of breath.

Anxiety can occur in a variety of situations. Some of them you may not be aware that you had a problem with until they happen. Fear is often the result of bouts of anxiety. There is that part of you that is afraid that the situation will arise again, so you are constantly on alert for it.

Cases of anxiety and fear can range from mild to severe. In most cases, it can begin with a thought or a memory that grows out of control and triggers the panic attack. In mild cases, they are not usually a hindrance to your life.

But, there are ways to help you deal with this feeling and the situations that trigger them. Even if the reasons surrounding the situation are irrational, the fear and anxiety are very real and so are the symptoms.

* Start by seeking medical advice – Your doctor may advise you to see a therapist to get at the heart of the matter. He may be able to treat your symptoms with medication. Give a thorough medical history as some medications for anxiety have strong side effects.

* Exercise – A healthy body can help you to deal better with the stresses and situations in your life that can lead to anxiety attacks. You don’t have to start with vigorous activities. Try yoga or tai chi or even Pilates to get your body moving again. Exercise releases endorphins that stimulate positive moods and clearer thinking in the brain.

* Hypnosis – Some find that under hypnosis they can reveal situations that may be leading to anxiety attacks. Once discovered, steps can be taken to deal with the situation. Hypnotherapy can also be used to introduce techniques for combating anxious situations.

* Visualization – A therapist can take you through the process. You are able to see yourself going into those situations that cause fear and formulate ways to deal with them before they happen. This can also be thought of as cognitive behavior therapy.

* Balanced diet –Eliminating salty, sugary and fatty foods from your diet can keep your blood sugar in balance. Shifting insulin levels can cause changes in mood. Healthier choices without preservatives may be able to reduce this effect.

Are you dealing with anxiety and the fear that follows? Seek help so that you can regain your life.

Stress Busters at Work

Stress is a number one complaint at work. Workers may not say specifically that they are feeling stressed but there are a number of signs that they may exhibit that bears this out. If you are one of the thousands that are feeling under pressure to perform on the job, here are some stress busters that may help you to regain control and enjoy your work environment again.

Stress in the workplace has cost insurance companies big money over the years. And employers have been hit as well through loss of days at work. Trouble in the workplace has led to workman’s comp claims going up. One way to combat this is through stress management on the job.

Here are some ideas to fight back the feelings of stress when they arise. Remember, don’t let stress get away from you or ignore it. Striking at the beginning increases your chances of managing it successfully and having a more pleasant experience at work.

* Get some sunlight – Exposure to sunlight is at a minimum in most offices. People underestimate the value of natural light. Basking in the sun raises levels of serotonin in the brain. This neurotransmitter is one that is responsible for our moods. And, you want to be in a good one. Take breaks outside or a brisk walk at lunchtime to soak up some old-fashioned vitamin D.

* Reduce tension – This may relate back to your chair. Most chairs are too stiff and don’t compensate for the curvature of the back. This can cause tension and pain in the lower back and even the shoulders if you work on the computer. At your desk, be sure that your chair is adjusted to a height that allows your legs to hit the floor at a ninety degree angle to your torso. Also ensure that your arms do the same as they tap the keyboard. This can take the strain off your neck when doing repetitive movements.

* Breathe – Have you ever noticed the air quality in your office? You may need an air purifier at your desk. They can be expensive but you can get some time outdoors as an alternative. Take long, deep breaths. The added oxygen can help clear the fog from your brain in the afternoon after lunch. If your desk is located near the copy room, ask to be moved if possible. Copiers collect a lot of dust and that is not good for the environment, the air quality or your lungs.

* Say no – We are often stressed because we take on too many tasks. It is okay to do your job and strive to do more, but don’t overload yourself to the point of too many projects coming due at one time. You can’t possibly do your best work that way. Know your job description and don’t be afraid to let your boss know what you can’t handle.

Is your job crushing your psyche? Use these tips to help keep you in top mental shape for whatever lies ahead.